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The Enmeshment Trap: Unraveling Work from Identity

The Enmeshment Trap: Unraveling Work from Identity

During a recent conversation, I was asked what celebration looks like in my life. I referred to an already established rhythm, where I look back at the end of each day and write down specific things to celebrate. Feeling pleased with myself, I recalled items from the previous evening’s list. As I read aloud, it became clear that each celebration corresponded to a met goal at work. I am blessed with a loving family and long-standing friendships, so why wouldn’t my celebration reflect other aspects of my life?

When the Angel of the Lord becomes the Home Help

When the Angel of the Lord becomes the Home Help

As a pastor, I have been led to think about the prophet Elijah in recent weeks – exhausted after his confrontation with the prophets of Baal. Running for his life, he sits and asks God to take his life away. Sounds like #fatigue and disappointment to me (1 Kings 19:4). But the angel of the Lord comes – the one who speaks both for God and as God. I am particularly comforted by the way he comes:

Gospel Truth and the Everyday Stuff of Life

Gospel Truth and the Everyday Stuff of Life

Many believers speak catchphrases without knowing how the gospel applies to the everyday stuff of life. They have been given the truths of Jesus as the answer for going to heaven, but have little knowledge of how Jesus gives a better answer for what they do in this life. God wants us to be able to translate the world around us and the world inside of us through the lens of the gospel.

God's Definition of Good

God's Definition of Good

In recent years I have returned again and again to these words. I was one of those ‘enthusiastic Christians’ that Dan McCartney refers to. The kind of person who passionately wanted to see every sickness and sin defeated in this life, but who failed to see God’s sovereignty in his own suffering. When I lost control of my environment, or something interrupted even the godliest of plans, it was easier to blame myself or the devil. This left me either fighting external forces or burdened with an internal sense of failure.